Camo

S. really likes my ass, so I try to find lingerie that highlights that part of my anatomy. There are a lot of really, really cute pieces out there if you're a size 6, but if you're not, then the job becomes infinitely harder. Actually, there are a lot of cheap, flimsy garters for plus size gals on the market, but I need my garter belts to serve two purposes: One, to hold up my stockings, and two, to camouflage my lower stomach area, referred to in the vernacular as a gunt. I've got one. I don't like it, but I have learned to live with it...

I was super psyched to discover Lingerie NYC, based in Brooklyn - they don't have a ton of choices, but they did have this standout

Ugh! It is SO HOT! Its made of a stretchy material, which makes it super duper comfortable, and it has six garter straps, which makes it super sexy. Its a wide garter, so it hides my lower stomach, and its not tight, so it doesn't create any unwanted bulges. Not to mention the buckles across the butt  - it is ridiculously sexy! I couldn't stop looking at my ass in the mirror when I had it on. The only drawback is that the straps are very short, and if you have wide thighs like I do, the stocking choices become extremely limited. I have two suggestions: as pictured, the Berkshire Wide Lace Top stockings (get the back seam kind!!) run long, and if you don't mind a bit of muffin top around your thighs then these are a super sexy choice. Both the garter belt and stockings are available for sale at Lingerie NYC.

If you're not feeling the muffin top thigh thing, I recommend these Topless Fishnet Stockings from Sock Dreams. These don't have a band at the top, so you can pull them up really high and they totally conform to your leg  without any pinching/denting. They have a reinforced toe, which I love, they come in a bunch of colors, and what's best - they're $5.00 a pair, and Sock Dreams offers free (and fast!) shipping. Wowee.

S. often says that the ensemble I'm wearing on a given night is "the best one ever". Actutally, he has said that every single time, for every single outfit I've ever worn. When he continued to talk about this strappy-butt garter/fishnet combo for days after I wore it, I knew I'd stumbled upon an instant classic.

Next - waist cinchers and corsets

Second Time Around

On our first date, I met S. in San Leandro and he took me to a little divey burger place in the middle of nowhere. I wasn't sure if he was going to make a move or not, but I dressed for the occassion, just in case ; ) I wore The Dealmaker dress, the plunge bra from Lane Bryant (which makes my 42DD boobs look amazing) and these super cute garter panties I bought on sale at Torrid. Tragically, they are no longer for sale on their website, but trust me, they were hot! Purple and black lace with black garters holding up the fishnet thigh highs I wore with my go-to Miz Mooz black boots.

The panties were a hit (as we walked back to our cars, I pulled up the side of my dress to show him my garter and it was on!), but logistically, they were a bit difficult. As I learned that night, S. likes to pull my panties down - when they're connected to your stockings, however, things get complicated. We had fun figuring it out...

For our second date, I decided to bring out the big guns - I wore my Catholic schoolgirl outfit. I have an authentic plaid schoolgirl skirt, which I wore with a short sleeved white blouse, that Lane Bryant plunge bra (I buttoned the shirt so most of my bra was showing), white cotton panties (the Hanes kind you get in a six pack at Target) and these fantastic white garter stockings with Converse. Garter stockings are great for when you want the garter look, but are either to lazy to hook stockings properly, or, in the case of my schoolgirl outfit, don't want another constricting layer. My skirt was intended for a high school student, waist size 34, meant to be worn somewhere around the navel? I had to wear it up around my waist to get it to zip up, and even then it was a bit of a struggle. The good thing about wearing it up that high is that it made the skirt super short, so S. could easily see the tops of my stockings and my pristine white panties as I walked around. He loved it. It was a fantastic night.

It can be really difficult to find an authentic schoolgirl skirt, and if you do a Google search for plaid skirts you're going to come up with some pretty horrific below the knee styles that nuns wouldn't even wear. I recommend trying http://www.sexyschoolgirlskirts.com/. They have skirts in all different colors and sizes (I wear an 18/20 dress, and bought a plus size 4 - it is maybe a skosh big, but the nice thing is that they're a wraparound style and have a 4 inch velcro closure, so there's room for adjustment. Plus, the velcro insures easy removal.) They ship really fast, too! Highly recommended.

Introduction

In January of 2011, I decided to ask the universe (in the form of Craigslist) for exactly what I wanted in a man: an older, mountain man-type guy with strength of character and a strong libido. I received many responses, and dated a few nice men, but one in particular captured my attention: S.

Over the past few months, S. and I have developed the most sexually adventurous, most simpatico and sensual relationship I have ever had. I've discovered things about myself and my sexuality that I never knew before. I'd like to share some of those revelations with you.

There's a dress that I wore on every first date I had - I call it The Dealmaker, because whenever I wore it, 9 times out of 10, I got a second date ; ). The dress is the Tory Cinch by Kiyonna, and it is a miracle. It drapes beautifully, shows the perfect amount of cleavage, and is just a super flattering dress. I highly recommend it!